August is National Make-a-Will Month. If you’ve seen any of the awareness campaigns, you’ve probably noticed a popular one: leave a bequest to protect a national park. It’s a beautiful idea your resources outlasting you, protecting something vast and enduring long after you’re gone.

But I want to push that idea further. Because a will isn’t just a legal document that says who gets your furniture. At its best, it is a final act of self-authorship. The last sentence in the story you’ve been writing your whole life and you get to choose how it ends.

One important note before we go further: a will alone, even a beautifully written one, typically still has to go through probate court before anything gets distributed. That matters more than most people realize, and we’ll come back to it.

“I Don’t Have Anyone to Leave Things To”

I hear this often — from clients who are aging, childfree by choice or circumstance, estranged from family, or simply living outside the nuclear family script that most estate planning assumes. “I don’t have kids.” “My family and I aren’t close.” “There’s no one who really needs this.”

I understand why people say this. If your only frame for estate planning is “pass it to the next generation of your bloodline,” and you don’t have that next generation, planning can feel irrelevant. Even a little sad.

The absence of an heir is not the absence of a legacy.

For clients who lived through the AIDS crisis, who organized and cared for people who had no one else, who buried friends before they buried parents when you tell me you don’t know who to leave anything to, I ask: what if your estate plan became one more act of care for the community that got you through? An organization that has been doing this work for over 40 years. A bail fund. A group supporting formerly incarcerated people rebuilding their lives. An immigrant rights organization fighting the same fights you or your family once fought.

If you have spent decades voting, organizing, or donating in line with a vision of a more just world racial justice, gender justice, tenant rights, mutual aid I ask you the same question: why would that commitment stop at death? Your values didn’t retire when you did. Why should your resources?

This Is Political. This Is Personal. And a Will Alone May Not Be Enough.

What you do with your assets after death is a political act. Every dollar goes somewhere. If you don’t decide where, the default isn’t neutral it’s just invisible. Your money either continues the causes and communities that shaped your life, or it disappears into a system that had nothing to do with your values.

If you die without a will, state law decides who inherits based on a rigid hierarchy of blood relatives regardless of how close you actually were, regardless of whether they share a single value you hold dear. And if no relatives can be found? Your assets escheat to the state. Not to a cause. Not to a community. Just absorbed, anonymously, without meaning.

Here’s the part that surprises most people: having a will does not automatically prevent this outcome. A will still has to be filed with the court and go through probate. If it can’t be located, wasn’t properly executed, or gets disputed, your carefully chosen causes and people can still end up delayed, contested, or lost in exactly the system you were trying to avoid. A will is critical. It is not, by itself, a guarantee.

Everything you built, saved, and held onto through a lifetime of hard-won independence and a document alone may not be enough to make sure it reaches the people and causes you actually intended. You get to prevent that. But it takes more than a will to do it.

Chosen Family Deserves Legal Recognition

For many LGBTQ+ clients especially those who came of age when marriage wasn’t a legal option and biological family was sometimes a source of rejection rather than support chosen family isn’t a consolation prize. It is family. Full stop.

State law doesn’t automatically recognize your chosen family the way it recognizes blood relatives or a legal spouse. Without effective documents, the person who sat with you through chemo, who you’ve called your sister for thirty years, gets nothing. Meanwhile, a biological relative you haven’t spoken to in decades could inherit everything by default. Your estate plan is one of the only legal tools available to make your real family official and the strongest protection often means going beyond a will alone, through a properly funded trust, so your chosen family doesn’t have to prove in court what you already knew to be true.

If you’re not sure where to start, I find it helps to sit with different questions than the usual “who gets your money.” Try these instead:

• What communities kept you alive literally or figuratively when things were hardest?
• What causes have you supported with your time, your voice, or your vote, but maybe never your money until now?
• What do you wish someone had made possible for you, that you could make possible for someone else?
• If you could guarantee one thing continued to exist in this world after you’re gone, what would it be?

 For some clients, the answer is an organization. For others, it’s a scholarship in their name, a trust for a chosen family member, a gift to a friend who showed up when no one else did. For many, it’s both an institution and a person because legacy was never meant to be either/or.

This Is Not Small. This Is Not an Afterthought.

Some of you have told me your estate planning “doesn’t matter that much” because there’s no spouse, no kids, nothing dramatic at stake. I want to gently push back on that. What you’re really saying is that your life, your history, your values, and your survival don’t matter enough to protect deliberately. And I don’t believe that.

Your legacy is not smaller because it doesn’t include children. It might be exactly the opposite entirely, unapologetically yours, undiluted by anyone else’s expectations of what you’re supposed to do with what you have.

What mattered to you? Who showed up for you? What did you fight for? What do you wish someone had made possible for you?

What if your death became one more chance to make that thing real in the world? That’s not an ending. That’s about as close to immortality as any of us actually get.

Let’s Build This Together

If you’ve been putting off estate planning because you assumed it didn’t apply to you because you don’t have kids, because your family situation is complicated, because you didn’t think your story warranted this kind of deliberate care I’d like to have a different conversation with you.

Let’s talk about what you’ve lived through. What you believe. Who and what you want to continue existing because you did. And let’s make sure the plan we build actually reaches them not just a will that sounds right on paper but stalls in probate court.

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